Blessed is the one who marries a best friend. After years and years together, the ultimate compliment silver-haired lovers smile upon each other is : "We are best friends." We may no longer play the same sports or enjoy the same hobbies, but we do delight in each other's company. We love being able to call across the house and know that special person is there-that we can be ourselves and not have to make any kind of impression because our partner accepts us for who we are as a whole, not by bits and pieces. We can fight or be apathetic. We can sit together without having to make conversation. We can listen to each other without needing any special point to our talking. We can sing or dance together when we have no ear or sense of rhythm-and even make up our own words if we forget the right ones! That's friendship, that's love-that's life's gift to the soul.
Your willingness to accept the differences between you will allow you to complement one another in ways that make life better for each of you. Keep in mind how different you and your partner are-not just your backgrounds, but your emotional make-up. Learn what really matters to your partner, learn his or her emotional language of love, and then act accordingly.
This is my lover, this is my best friend.
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